The Six Words My Pre Teen Daughter Needs to Hear

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My dear daughter, I know that life is hard for you right now.  I know there are big changes in your world and they are coming fast.  I know that this time in your life can be a very trying one for you and to those closest to you.  I know that there will be days when your emotions take over and you will not be able to control them.  I know because I have been through it. I need you to know that despite what you think, I  love you beyond measure and I will love you through it.  Just remember on your hard days that your parents will always love you, no matter what.  Just remember these six little words:

“I will love you through it.”

On the days when you feel ugly and you do not want to face judgement from this superficial world; days when you do not approve of what you see in the mirror, I will tell you how beautiful you are.   I will say it again and again with conviction until you start to believe it yourself.  I will love you through it.

On the days when anger, irritability, and general contempt for the world takes over your body, and you want nothing more than to push everyone away, I will still be here.  You can never push me away.  I will love you through it.

On the days you spend in “solitary confinement” by your own choosing because you cannot stand to be around us and the only comfort you have is the lifeline of texts to your friends,  I will give you space.  I will understand.  I will love you through it.

On the days you struggle with heartbreak over a jealous friendship or a first love, and all you want to do is cry, I will cry too.  My heart will ache as well.  I will love you through it.

On the days you lash out at me with harsh words, sputtering hatred and telling me I am the worst mother ever, I will remind myself you don’t mean it.   I  will love you through it.

On the days you feel it is unfair that you do not get what you want, and that everyone else’s parents are better than the ones you have, I will remind you of all your blessings and I will stand my ground.  I will love you through it.

On the days you feel joy and love towards me and we get along like best friends, I will hold those close to my heart.  I will savor every beautiful moment.  I will withdraw those moments from my bank of memories and spend them on the tough days and it will remind me of our love for each other.

My dear daughter, no matter what kind of days you have – the good, the bad, and the very bad, I will love you through it.

The Truth About Santa

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My daughter Grace knows “the truth about Santa”.  She has known for several years now.  I believe she was only 7 years old when her father told her.  I remember the exact moment my husband confessed to me that he had told her the truth.  I was very disappointed.  I believed she was too young to have this childhood magic taken away.  What a loss of innocence!  She was just a little girl! But as my husband explained his reasoning I fully understood and agreed that she needed to know the truth.  Our daughter has always been a little “wise beyond her years”.  She seemed to be struggling with the whole Santa myth for a few months before outright asking her father if Santa was “real”.  Leading up to the moment of truth she had asked us many, many questions.  It was like she knew and we were all just keeping up this façade.  One of the major reasons my husband told her was because he believes in being honest with our children and the importance of trust.  His daughter was seeking answers and had come to him for the truth.  He wanted to set the stage early.  He wanted his daughter to know that if she was searching for the truth or needed to talk to him about something that was bothering her, she could go to him.  He would listen to her, talk with her, and most importantly tell her the truth. They had a lengthy talk about Santa and why we keep the idea “magical” for little ones.  She understood. 

My husband had made the right decision in telling her.  I see that now.  However, I am not saying that we should all tell our seven years olds the truth about Santa.  I still “believe” in Santa.  I believe in many things.  I believe in letting young children have those magical moments, to support their incredible imaginations and hold on to that childhood innocence just as long as possible.  I believe in giving them something to look forward to, a sparkle in their eyes.  The truth will surface eventually.  And as an adults, there seem to be many truths we wish we didn’t know, many truths we wish we didn’t have to face.  Life can be hard.  I believe our intention as parents is to protect our children from some of the ugly truths of life while they are young. They will be adults soon enough.  For now, let them be children.  I understand why some parents choose to tell their children the truth about Santa.  I understand why my husband told our daughter.  And he understands why I choose not to tell our boys the truth.  Not yet…  Wishing you all a merry, magical Christmas whatever you believe.

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photo credit – Darlene McCowan Photograph

The Myth of Santa’s Beard

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Christmas is a time for traditions with family.  Do you have special things you do with your children each Christmas?  You could start a new tradition with this beautiful book.  Read it every year at this time or save it to read with your little one on Christmas eve.

Loved for its traditional Christmas message The Myth of Santa’s Beard by Sharon Thayer leads children into the magical world of Santa, as it also transports adults back to a time when the magic was theirs.

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Synopsis: There is a problem growing – literally growing – at the North Pole because children around the world are being good. Santa’s beard grows a little each time children share, play fair, do their best, and tell the truth. Soon, because thousands of children are good every day, Santa’s beard gets so long he can hardly walk, or talk, and he can’t make the toys! But those smart little elves come up with a plan. In the end, all Santa must do is choose the best kids from the “Good List” to receive a snippet of his long beard.

Children squeal with delight when they discover their very own snippet of Santa’s beard, tied with red ribbon and included in the book. This book will become a family tradition and the special gift will be treasured every Santa believing year and beyond.

This book would make a beautiful gift for the little child in your life.  Never stop believing!

Where can I get this beautiful book?

You can buy it or try to win a copy signed by the author!

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This is a sponsored post.  Thanks to Sharon Thayer for giving me a copy of the book to review and giveaway.  I loved being able to review this beautifully written and illustrated children’s book first hand.