Top Ten Reasons Why I Blog

My website is one year old.  For the past year I have been sharing my thoughts, feelings and stories with people around the world.  I have exposed my personal thoughts to judgement. Thankfully, most people have been kind with their comments and opinions. Those of you who like what I say read more of my posts.  Those who do not like what they read usually just move on. My website and social media platforms have a few loyal followers and I have become a contributor to some other awesome websites such as www.losethecape.com, www.catholicmommyblogs.com, www.togetherfamilies.com, and www.bleepingmotherhood.com I am grateful for these partnerships as well as my exposure on topmommyblogs.

This is a diverse list of websites, I know.  But it shows a lot about who I am.  I am many things.  I am a professional in the childcare business.  I am a new Catholic who is learning more each day about how incredible it is to have faith.  I am a wife and mother to four children.  I am sometimes a put-together mother who can offer some advice because in my thirteen years of parenting, “I’ve been there”.  I am sometimes a mother who feels like she has nothing together and needs advice from others.

I am at all times a mother who tries her best but is still convinced she’s screwing up her kids and loves to connect with other parents who might feel the same way. I am honest and real and I love my family, shopping,  and relaxing with a whiskey or a wine.

I blog for many reasons.  Here are my top ten.

Top Ten Reasons Why I Blog

  1. I’m alone with my thoughts.  I have a husband, four children and a dog.  I work full-time at a childcare centre where there are tiny humans, staff and parents coming and going all day long.  I also have a part-time job as a college instructor and on weekends, I spend my time at busy arenas.  My mind collects a massive amount of information throughout the week and is stored there until it can be released when I have “time to think”.
  2. I connect with other parents.  I have made some pretty great “blogger friends” through my website and people have reached out to me from all parts of the world.  It helps to know there are others who feel the same way you do about raising children.
  3. I share my feelings and my life with others so they don’t feel bad about themselves. One of my most popular posts was “Mommy Mistakes”.  I guess people really like to see or read about how people mess up.  That would explain the viral “epic fail” videos and such.  We all make mistakes.  None of us are perfect.  I think parents like to hear that other parents are making mistakes as well.  We learn from them and move on.
  4. I’m learning. I research. Not only about children and parenting but how to run my own website.  A year ago I had no idea how to create a website, add a plug-in, gain e-mail subscribers, add affiliate links, etc.  I owe a lot of my new-found knowledge to fellow writer Alexa from Write, Publish, Sell with Alexa Bigwarfe.
  5. It’s my way to vent.  It’s an outlet. It’s therapy.  I always, always feel better after I blog.
  6. It makes me happy.  Laundry and dishes do not make me happy.  So instead, I blog.  I guess that can also be described as avoidance or procrastination…
  7. I get free stuff.  I have received some pretty awesome products in exchange for reviews and blog posts with affiliate links.  I have also been paid for a several blog posts I have written which is an added bonus.
  8. Everyone needs a hobby. Some people exercise.  Some people sew or do crafts.  I blog.  All I need is a computer and a few minutes alone with my thoughts.  Sitting down in front of the computer with my thoughts is something I really look forward to.
  9. My kids can look back and read the crazy stories their mother wrote.  I may not have an amazing scrapbook for all four of my children, but I do have some published stories and letters to them that they can read when they are older.
  10. It’s my happy place.  Oops I already said that in #6.  I guess it can’t be said enough. Blogging makes me happy.  I always feel better after all the thoughts and stories in my head are transferred to the computer.  It releases some instant happiness.  If you are a writer or a blogger, can you relate?  If you are not a writer, what is your passion?  What makes you happy?  Find out what it is and go do it.  Do more of what makes you happy.

We are all Struggling

He’s struggling.  She’s struggling.  I’m struggling.  I think we are all struggling.

“The struggle is real” has become a very common catch phrase.  It’s often used for tongue in cheek humour but there is often truth behind it.

What’s your struggle?

Are you struggling with work? Are you struggling with a relationship? Are you struggling with your children?  Are you struggling with your weight or your health?  Are you struggling with grief?  Are you struggling with an addiction or a bad habit? Are you struggling to cope with daily life?  Are you struggling with financial difficulties?

I think we all have struggles at different stages of our lives.  Even my toddler has struggles. They may not seem that significant to us as adults, but the struggles are real to him.  My teenage daughter has struggles.  They are very real to her.  My husband has struggles.  My friends have struggles.  My co-workers have struggles.  I have daily struggles that seem to be multiplying.  Our struggles are real.

I think it is important to acknowledge that we all struggle at some point and it’s okay.  But as a smart friend of mine says,

“It’s not okay to struggle for a long time

without getting help”.

We all have bad days.  Bad days are inevitable.  But when you have many, many bad days in a row you need to recognize it and seek help. If you feel like you are sinking, or drowning, or you cannot catch your breath, it may be a sign that your struggles are weighing you down. Please be kind enough to yourself to recognize the fact that you may need some help to turn it all around.  Talk to someone you trust, take a break, catch a nap, or do something that makes you happy.  Better days are ahead.

Perhaps you know someone who is struggling but may not even realize it or know where to turn for help.  Please do not let them suffer alone.

It’s also not okay to ignore someone

who is struggling.

Try to reach out to that person and see how you can help.  Do something kind for him or her.  It may mean more than you know.  Make a connection.  It may help in many ways.

Let’s pull each other back up when the struggles

of life knock us down.

Yes, the struggle is real.  We are all struggling,  but we can do something about it.   We don’t have to struggle alone.  We don’t have to struggle for long.  Reach out to someone.

How To Raise Great Kids by Jim Gromer – Book Review

I was given an awesome book “How To Raise Great Kids 101 Fun & Easy Ideas” by Jim Gromer, a father of four. This book is an easy read for busy parents like us who don’t have a lot of spare time to read parenting books.  Yet this one is fun because it offers so many fun and simple ideas we can implement with our children.

I think this is a book every parent can enjoy.  I learned new ideas for how to get my kids to stop complaining, to say positive things about their siblings, and even how to make your children cook.

I have dog-eared a lot of the pages of things I want to try.

The top three things ideas I like the best are:

  1. “No More Complaining” -p.62  Every time your child complains about doing something you ask, you assign one additional task.  I have actually tested this one out and it works.  My one son complains every time I ask him to take the dog outside.  He whines about how his other siblings should do it instead.  Now I say he must do it this time and the next time the dog needs out.  He quickly stops the complaining.  I also add an extra chore if he does not complete his first chore on time.  My one son’s chore is to empty the dishwasher.  If I ask him several times and it is not done, then he must not only empty the dishwasher, but rinse and fill it with the dirty dishes waiting in the sink.  Now he keeps up with his chores more.  Jim explains, “You will be pleasantly surprised how the whining comes to an abrupt and joyful end”.  I would call this a parenting win.
  2. “What I Like About You” -p.25 The idea is to “pick one person in the family and have everyone, including that person,  say his favorite thing about her”.  When we have family suppers I like to do this activity.  We sometimes fall into the bad habit of finding fault in each other so this is a nice way to bring out the positives.  It helps the siblings to see the good in each other ( and themselves).  This positive conversation starter helps to bond our family together.
  3. “Make Them Cook” -p.71 I must admit that as a parent, I have not taught my older children enough kitchen skills.  How am I expecting them to be prepared for life?  I must allow them to help me in the kitchen, to teach them and then to expect them to cook simple things themselves.  The author states, “Please give both your girls and boys the gift of healthy food preparation skills today”.

Maybe these are ideas you have already implemented with your family.  Or perhaps they are new ideas you would like to try out on your family.  This book has 101 ideas so I’m very confident every parent can find a few great ideas to try out on their children.

Best wishes!  You can find a copy of this book on Amazon.  Special thanks to Jim Gromer for the free book to review.  It’s definitely a book I will browse through often for new ideas.

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